Nine Steps to Healing A Broken Heart
Updated: Oct 25, 2022
Time To Set Your Intentions!
Nine Steps to Healing Broken Hearts Using a Spiritually Higher Lens
The Solar Eclipse that occurred on October 25, 2022 brought with it a particular healing DESTINY energy that will LAST ABOUT SIX MONTHS and was intended by Spirit to help you recover from deeply broken hearts and wounds. Enough carrying around old emotional baggage! Holding on to past relationship pain DRAINS you of VITAL ENERGY in the PRESENT and PREVENTS YOU from MOVING FORWARD! Whether this pain is from the physical loss of a beloved, a breakup from long ago or something more recently, it is TIME TO HEAL.
So…. how does one go about this deep healing?? Sitting under the sun and waiting for this to magically happen?? No. As a matter of fact, according to Vedic tradition, it’s not wise to go out during a Solar Eclipse!
Healing begins when you go INWARD, allowing yourself to use a higher lens, viewing the situation from a wider perspective. Compassion for what you, as a soul having a human experience, has been through in your life, is the first step. Earth is not an easy planet, it’s a tough school full of difficult classes designed to help us grow spiritually.
Initially, when we are hurt with emotional pain, it’s human to use the old “myopic lens.” Unfortunately, using this biased short-sided lens endlessly replays “the story” over and over again—what happened, the loss, who did what, blame and shame. It creates the same cycle of NON-HEALING.
This subjective lens from our own viewpoint causes and continues repeated pain and suffering. Most of us have had our hearts trampled. It’s part of the human process. Some souls run from heartache to heartbreak only to experience another of the same or nearly the same situation while thinking oh, THIS PERSON WILL SAVE ME AND HEAL ME.
What is the lesson here?
Using a narrow minded lens will not move you forward, and in fact, will keep you in the same place. So this BEGS THE QUESTION: DO YOU REALLY WANT TO MOVE FORWARD?
If you do, keep reading. If you want to stay in the same place, using the same myopic lens, you certainly have free will to do so! However, you are wasting precious time and energy. This powerful moment in history is ABOUT SOUL GROWTH, which is WHY YOU CHOSE—THIS TIME—to INCARNATE!
DON’T WASTE THIS INCREDIBLE OPPORTUNITY FOR SOUL GROWTH! You will thank yourself on the Other Side!
NINE STEPS TO MAKE A CHANGE USING A HIGHER LENS
1.) GO INWARD, give yourself permission to take a wider view at whatever the pain is—that has caused you—to continue holding on to it.
2.) Sitting quietly, in a meditative state, view the situation.
3.) Now, if it’s the loss of a child or the loss of a significant other, are you able to see the gift that soul left for you? These souls always leave us something amazing behind. As a Medium who works with people who have experienced great sacrifice and loss, the souls on the “Other Side” communicate over and over to me that they do not want their loved ones to hold onto sadness, only love.
4.) If this pain is about a love relationship that didn’t turn out the way you planned, what did you learn about YOURSELF? Did you learn boundaries? Did you learn about abuse? Self-esteem? Drugs or alcohol behavior? Personality Disorders? Sometimes we have a relationship to see what is NOT good for us. Why did you choose each other? Did the relationship feel destined? Often, those are with people we have “Sacred Contracts” with to learn really important and valuable lessons about ourselves and for our soul to mature. These relationships can be painfully challenging but the growth can be enormous.
5.) If the pain is from the loss of a parent, why do think you chose that Mother or Father? We actually choose our parents and our siblings on the “Other Side” and often we learn the most from our family relationships. What did you learn from these “Sacred Contracts?” Unconditional love? Struggle? Sacrifice? Selflessness? Loyalty? What are the gifts these important relationships provided to the growth of your soul?
6.) Look at your relationships, whether a love relationship or a parental relationship and ask yourself, was it ABUSIVE? Be honest. Sometimes we don’t want to dig deep enough to admit we were abused. This causes huge hidden anger, pain, suffering and SHAME. If this is the case, widen the lens and look at the abuser’s BACKGROUND. Was it filled with trauma? Usually it is. Does this mean we automatically forgive? No, but it sheds some light into the experience and light can grow from that mustard seed.
7.) Are you able to WIDEN your lens now and see life through the lens of TRAUMA? Can you have compassion for what people may have gone through in life? Are you able to view YOUR LIFE through the lens of TRAUMA? If so, are you able to have COMPASSION for YOURSELF? Are you able to forgive them? Trauma is not an excuse for the mistreatment of you, but it gives you a lens of understanding that it was never YOU. It was the unhealed generational trauma sadly passed down.
8.) Are you able to have forgiveness for yourself? Forgiving yourself means letting go of the feelings and emotions associated with what went wrong, including resentment and anger. It’s not an easy one and often it’s easier to forgive others than ourself. Your Spirit Guides know how important this is for your growth.
9.) And finally, viewing all of this with your HIGHEST LENS, the wisdom from your HIGHER SELF, what is the lesson in all of this? What have you learned? BOUNDARIES, COMPASSION, FORGIVENESS. Ultimately, this is why we incarnate.
This may take SEVERAL times but, eventually, I hope it leads you to a place of opening spiritually, FREE from pain and suffering. You will be amazed how much energy you will receive when “healing and letting go” of these old wounds!
From The Quiet Mind, White Eagle: Have you thought about what forgiveness means? You, your own self, your own personality, needs your forgiveness. Your spirit is divine, but until you have overcome, your personality remains human and needs the forgiveness of your spirit. As you forgive, as your spirit forgives your personality, so also you will learn to forgive others for all their seeming errors. If you will train yourself to think in terms of love and forgiveness every moment of your life, a most beautiful healing will take place in you.
Kellee White is a Spiritual Medium and Psychotherapist who uses a very wide lens in her work.